By the Education Karnataka Editorial Team · Last updated: November 2026

Quick answer: Stay connected through regular, predictable calls, letters and small surprises, planned visits and steady communication with the warden or mentor. Avoid overparenting, such as constant calls, solving every small problem, or questioning every decision, so your child can build independence and confidence.

Key takeaways

• Consistency matters more than frequency.
• Let your child solve small problems with the help of school staff.
• Stay in touch with mentors for a complete picture.
• Celebrate growth in independence and skills.

Healthy connection habits

Habit	Why it helps
Fixed weekly call times	Predictability and security
Letters or cards	Something to keep and reread
Asking about friends and activities	Encourages engagement
Planned visits	Something to look forward to
Regular mentor updates	Balanced information

Signs of overparenting

• Calling the warden about very small issues.
• Asking for daily updates on everything.
• Solving every conflict for your child.
• Showing constant worry during calls.

How to support independence

1. Ask “What will you try?” before offering solutions.
2. Praise effort, not just results.
3. Trust the school’s routines.
4. Step in when safety or wellbeing is at risk.

Frequently asked questions

How often should I call? Follow the school’s call schedule. Steady, regular contact works best.

Should I tell my child about problems at home? Share in an age-appropriate way, and avoid burdening them with worries.

My child complains about small things. Should I act? Listen, encourage problem-solving, and contact the school if it’s serious or ongoing.

How do I know my child is doing well? Through calls, mentor updates, report cards and visits.

Is it normal to miss my child a lot? Yes. Many parents feel this, especially in the first term.

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